Saturday, April 3, 2010

Day 181

After another wonderful night sleep in the world of singledom I have awoken fresh and alive and pondering (yet again) on the formula for the perfect marriage. Who am I kidding? I don't care about perfection, I just hope to make the distance. What is the key to actually staying married instead of joining the other half of the population who choose divorce? Do people get divorced too quickly? Is the key simply "giving a shit"? Or have I just opened up a whole new can of worms with that one? I know, I know ... there are a lot of good reasons to break the bond and bow out. Abuse, infidelity, addictions. Well, how long is that piece of string? There's a lot of legitimate reasons. But what if there isn't one good reason? I'm just wondering if perhaps there is a point where you're just too tired. A point where the partnership runs its course because everyone is too tired to keep it alive.

And that is where you get single beds!!!! I'm telling ya, this really works. I'm not sure how Derek is feeling about it, but I am skipping through the flower beds again today. I feel like putting a ribbon in my hair, a floral dress and dancing through the paddocks "Tucker's Daughter" style.

They need to change those marriage vows. It's time. It may just cut our 50% divorce rate to around 25%. "For richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part, and although we sleep apart ...."

5 comments :

  1. When we started sleeping in separate rooms we were told by many it was a sign of us losing our marriage mojo, that it was a loss of intimacy and that we may as well be separated!

    Bah - what a load of tripe from people insecure in their own relationships!

    I too think it may well be the secret to a long, happy and far spicier marriage... My Mum and Dad slept separately for the last thirty years of their marriage, and it only ended with the death of my Dad.

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  2. Too true MM, people look at me strangely when I say hubby and I sleep separately, but it is actually bought spice back into our marriage. We constantly hug and kiss when be bump into each other in our large house. We have fun sleep overs in each other's beds - but go back to our beds when we feel like it and neither of us feels hurt by that. I keep my clothes in our bedroom and get dressed in there etc, but I just sleep in a different room. We've been married for 33 years this year, the sleeping separately has been happening for about 18 months and we are both happier and more in love than we ever have been.

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  3. You are all wonderful to be sharing: the relief, oh the sweet relief!

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  4. You have a blog award at my blog too!

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  5. Thanks Mad Mother! And thanks to everyone else for not making me feel like a freak. I have advised husband of new findings ... he is frowning a lot ...

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