Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Day 1086 - Teenager Alert

Any advice for the mother of a teen?

Thirteen years ago, at 6.44am I gave birth to a bouncing baby girl after 15 hours of labour and some help from a pair of forceps.
Tahlia's First Birthday (C) Deep Fried Fruit
It took me four years to recover from that birth before I was prepared to do it all again with her brother. But the pain has long since disappeared and a beautiful angel has appeared in its place.

But for how long?  As she turns 13 today I can't help but wonder, what am I in for now?

When Tahlia was six months old I remember starting to panic because the time was flying by far too quickly and she was growing up too fast.  She was but a baby.  

I recall having the same thoughts when she turned four.  I could already see a teenager before me. She was but a preschooler.  

When she turned eight we were on a plane to the USA and the whole plane sang for her and the hostesses gave her ice-cream. She seemed so grown up and again I started to panic at how quickly she was growing.  She was but a primary schooler.

And here she is today in year seven at high school and officially a teenager.  She is beside herself with excitement because today is the day she is allowed to get Facebook (eeek), she is no longer a tweenie, she can now join the more senior cheer squad, and she gets to upgrade her bedroom from sweet little girly butterflies and flowers, to something more sophisticated.

I am very proud and excited for my little girl ... but there is a very large part of me that is starting to panic.

Any advice for the mother of a teen?

Eeeek!!!  

Tahlia Langdown - photo by ESH photography
(C) Deep Fried Fruit



Edits:
(1) I think I'll be spending a whole lot more time over at "The Kids are All Right"
(2) Photo taken by ESH Photography in Canberra 

20 comments :

  1. Sorry, no advice. Thankfully the teen years are a long way off for me yet. But, happy birthday to your little (big) girl!

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  2. oh she is gorgeous!! happy birthday :)

    #teamIBOT

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  3. No advice from me. My girls are 6 & 8.

    She is a gorgeous girl and I am sure she will stay that way. Rachel xx

    #TeamIBOT was here x

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  4. Just breath as you did through labor and savour every minute.
    HAPPY BIRTHDAY TAHLIA SWEET 13.

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  5. My girl is 3 in a few weeks and I'm going through similar, "she's growing up so quickly" moments. On the advice front - afraid I got nothin'!! I'm no help!
    Hope she has a happy birthday :)

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  6. no advice as I am a mother of a 3yr old.. but.. good luck!!!


    I was a terror as a teen..

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  7. She's gorgeous!
    I think you need to go with the flow. My eldest is nearly 18 and has been a challenge all the way along... it doesn't necessarily get easier, just more of a habit.
    That said, Miss 15 has a beautiful nature and genuinely helps out with the younger children.
    Master 13 is our current challenge and Miss 10 is already giving him a run for his money.
    Hold on to your hats, this is going to get interesting! ;)
    Good luck and happy teenagerdom to Miss 13!! xxx

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  8. My girls are still babies at 14mo and 2.9yrs. I relate to the panic - I often feel that they are growing up too fast.I wish I had some advice for you. Your daughter is stunning. xx

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  9. Teenagers - what a ride !!! I have now done it 3 times and am embarking on my fourth time this year. One thing I would like to say is ..... keep this in the back of your memory .... after the diaster zone of teenage years you and your children actually become great freinds again when they hit about 18. My daughter is now 21 and amazing and we have a great relationship - however when she was 14 to 17 it was a disaster zone.

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  10. Teenagers - what a ride !!! I have now done it 3 times and am embarking on my fourth time this year. One thing I would like to say is ..... keep this in the back of your memory .... after the diaster zone of teenage years you and your children actually become great freinds again when they hit about 18. My daughter is now 21 and amazing and we have a great relationship - however when she was 14 to 17 it was a disaster zone.

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  11. RUN, Run very fast, as fast as you can. Hide for the next 8 or so years.

    Teenage girls are scarry. I was once one who although quiet, could be, ummmmmm tenacious.

    I have a step-daughter, just gone 14 and thinks she is so grown up and mature. Wants to be an adult already.

    Just try and keep her young and innocent for as long as possible. Try to enjoy this challenging stage.

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  12. Teens are good fun, the hormones start evening out a little, they make more sense most of the time. Keep her close, and her friends closer. If she asks if so and so can stay over, always answer yes! The better you know her friends, the better you will know her!

    Keep the conversation going, even if you only receive grunts in return, and keep your sense of humour - you'll need it! xxx

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  13. Well my kids are a few years off, but everything I've read is that you need to maintain a relationship with her.
    Hope that helps!
    Happy birthday to your beautiful girl. She really is a stunner.

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  14. Im hoping a good relationship now will get us through teen years later! she is a beauty! x

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  15. Ha ha! I was just jumping on to say no idea what advice I can give you - then I saw the link at the bottom of the article! I'm still wondering how to survive the teen years too. I thought jacana and Ash's advice was great. I'm counting on what Jacana says being true - I am looking forward to being friends with my teen again in a few years; and I think getting to know their friends, like Ash says, is so helpful - but also her friends' mums. I have a couple of mums who I talk with on the phone and we can work out on what's going on!

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  16. And happy birthday to your beautiful girl.

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  17. No teenagers here. But the best thing I think my Mum did, was that she was safe. I knew she was a safe person to talk to about anything... my boyfriend spent more time at my house than his own, and would often come to visit and chat with Mum even when I wasn't home, because she is such a comfortable, good person to talk to.... 10 years on, and he's my husband, and we have a great relationship with my parents- so she must have done something right! Good Luck with it! xxx

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  18. Wow! That is such wonderful advice from everyone. I'm so glad I asked! Thanks for being so open and forth-coming everyone. I really love Ash's comment "Keep her close, and her friends closer." Backed up by Robyn. That is my new mantra. I am writing that down ....
    And am printing out the rest of these comments as well! This may just become my teenage parenting handbook :)
    Leanne

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  19. She's beautiful too. Happy birthday to you, sweetness. Happy teenage years. Go gentle on your mum, you hear!?! x

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  20. A belated Happy Birthday Tahlia. Beautiful photo. No advice here.

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