Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Day 1687 - Everything happens for a reason

Positive Aging Part Three ....


As I continue on this journey of embracing middle age and choosing to live every day as happily as possible, I recognise there are times when I could easily just pack it all in and choose to be back to a place where somebody else has all the responsibility. You know that place?  It's called "kidnom".  But I'm not a kid - I'm all grown up and the responsibility is mine.  So instead of dwelling on the challenges I continue to seek the "up side" in each situation with one key phrase plastered across my line of sight .... "everything happens for a reason". Thank you Marilyn Monroe.




Anthony Robbins (or Tony Robbins for those in the know) is a bit of a success guru.  He spends his life coaching people in life achievement.  I've attended a few of his conferences and listened to a bunch of his CDs as I educated myself in "life achievement" training. One of the big things that Tony concentrates on in his teachings is the need for belief.  Belief in yourself and belief in the possibilities. But also belief patterns and the fact that those guiding principles that helped shaped us as we grew can be our best friends .... or our worst enemies.  Beliefs can empower us ... but equally they can hold us back.

Many years ago he did a study into the belief patterns of highly successful people.  He studied big businessmen, sports stars, celebrities, pop stars ... people who had made it to the top of their particular field.  He discovered a bunch of stuff that they all had in common.  There were around six beliefs that they all shared .... not the least of which was "everything happens for a reason".

So as part of my aging positively strategy I have latched onto that belief.  And it works.

Instead of getting upset and stressed by the fact that in addition to having Tahlia at home as an invalid I now have young Darby with a broken arm ... I can see that IF Darby had to break his arm, it's better he do it now when I have already cleared my diary to be with Tahlia during her recovery.

Instead of feeling overwhelmed at the need to get myself a "full time" contract/consultancy to bring some much needed money into the house, right when Cheer Chick Charlie is being pitched in the USA, I can feel safe in the knowledge that I'll be bringing in a regular income and keeping myself occupied while my US based Manager and Agent both do their jobs (which is largely out of my hands in any case).  Better to be active than sitting at a desk on this side of the world at a loose end wondering what's happening over there.

When the dinner burns perhaps it's because I should have cooked a meal with more fresh food and vegetables instead of relying on a jar of "Kantong".

When I need petrol when I'm already running late perhaps it's a sign that I need to slow down, take stock, collect my thoughts and stop racing.  So it will add five minutes to my trip .... what's five minutes?

When I get a red light it's a chance to put on my lipstick.

When we miss out on a super duper cheap airfare when we're booking our Cheer Chick Charlie business trip to the USA, it's because there actually is a deal just as cheap AND with the airline we actually wanted to fly with just around the corner.

When the heel breaks on my shoe as I walk out the door for a presentation it's because the shoes I was wearing are ten years old anyway and the outfit was too tight and uncomfortable.  Having to race back inside to change into my very comfortable black pants and groovy leopard print shoes is a good thing.

Sure, there are times when it's hard to find the "everything happens for a reason" gem in the shit that may be going on ... but when that time arrives it's a bit easier to deal with because I'm not feeling heavy from the burden of having piles of shit upon shit upon shit.  Seeing these things as gems helps me to feel lighter, freer and positive.

And it helps me sparkle.  I find my inner Marilyn Monroe glow.

Knowing that "everything happens for a reason" lightens the load.

It's good to feel light.

Can you find the "everything happens for a reason" gems in your day? 

8 comments :

  1. This is one of the key ways I have fought back against my depression and anxiety - finding the positive, trusting things happen for a reason even if I cannot see it immediately. Xxx

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  2. Better than that is the "Sometimes good things fall apart so that better things can fall together". I've never heard that before - but I have a friend who needs to hear it today, so this is the perfect post for me!

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  3. I wholeheartedly believe that everything does happen for a reason. I love that Marilyn quote! and oh my goodness you sat in a presentation of Tony Robbins - that is just awesome! hope things settle down soon and Charlie is awesome in the US xxx Josefa #teamIBOT

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  4. Leopard print shoes are ALWAYS awesome ;)

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  5. Yes I do believe this but don't always think it when the poop hits the fan.

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  6. It sure is good to feel light. I always try to see the silver lining as difficult as it can be sometimes. Meanwhile, how exciting about Cheer Chick Charlie getting pitched to the US. AWESOME!

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  7. It's not always easy to see at the time, but this is absolutely true Leanne.
    Good luck with Cheer Chick Charlie in the US!! x

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  8. I'm going through this right now. I missed my son's mother's day afternoon and I burst into tears when I arrived and he was second to last being picked up and he asked why I wasn't there. I had just written 27 editorials, 5 website pages and I must have not read the email properly. I was devastated but it was meant to happen because it's reminded me that I need to SLOW DOWN, say no more xx

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