Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Day 1701 - Positive Aging Part Three

It's all about perception (and punctuation)



As I wander on this adventure called middle age I continue to find as many positives as possible in the aging process.  This thing we call growth is really quite a fascinating journey.  What I've found over the years is that how we live our life, and what we get from it, depends very much on our perspective ... or perception.  We experience the world not as it is, but as we are.



One of the best exercises in perception (and punctuation) that I have come across is this one.  Given to a university class, students were asked for their opinions on the statement "a woman without her man is nothing".

It was actually an exercise in punctuation.

Most of the guys in the audience laughed and yahoo'ed agreeing to the statement.  Many of the women were appalled and got upset.

Their immediate response was that this was a negative statement for women.  They read it punctuated as "a woman without her man, is nothing."

A handful of women rejoiced and celebrated their victory.  They had a different version.  The statement to them was actually an empowering one. They read it punctuated as "A woman: without her, man is nothing."

This exercise is a great example of the need for punctuation.

This exercise is also a good example of a glass half full versus glass half empty perspective.

So much of what we react to in our day is based on our perception.  Just as that statement up there could be read more than one way, so can the experiences we have.

Whether it be a text, a Facebook status, an email or a note ... or even an activity, encounter or interaction ... miscommunication can occur because of the perception of the reader ... the receiver. The mood they are in.  The expectations they have.  The world that they see.  Regardless of how well it has been punctuated ... or what the original intentions may be ... the message received may be very different than the one intended by the writer.

Perception.

It's the way we look at things.

For me, the art of positive aging includes the ability to look at every situation with fresh eyes.  To read between the lines.  To not react too quickly, but to stop and look at a situation or message from all angles. The ability to find the good before assuming the bad.  To remove existing emotion to separate the facts from feelings.

The ability to automatically insert a happy face emoticon ...

Why? 

Because it just feels better.

Yep. We experience the world not as it is ... but as we are.

And today I have made the decision to feel GREAT!

What about you? 

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10 comments :

  1. Done! (I also blogged on perception this week...not as mature as you though...mine's all ME, ME, ME!)

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  2. So true Leanne! I find emails are particularly susceptible to misinterpretation, so I'm always very careful with my punctuation (and I use emoticons a lot!!) :-)

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  3. Yes! The wrong perspective has lead to many dramas that could have been avoided, I'm sure.

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  4. so true so much is written without punctuation these days and with the increasing use of abbreviations it can often be difficult to work out what someone is really saying

    Stopping to think before responding/reacting is always a good idea. :-)

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  5. I have been misunderstood because of my bad punctuation! Perspective makes all the difference. I think it needs to be a daily ritual to choose to feel great everyday.

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  6. Fantastic post, what a great way to draw in the reader with a seemingly controversial headline. I admit, I was guilty of reading that statement as those yahooing male students did!

    Perception is so important. And empathy. Because whilst we must watch our own perceptions, we must also consider how our words may be taken by others, especially in this digital age where text is typed so quickly, and often with grammatical error. Great post! Thanks!

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  7. Fantastic post, what a great way to draw in the reader with a seemingly controversial headline. I admit, I was guilty of reading that statement as those yahooing male students did!

    Perception is so important. And empathy. Because whilst we must watch our own perceptions, we must also consider how our words may be taken by others, especially in this digital age where text is typed so quickly, and often with grammatical error. Great post! Thanks!

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  8. Oh, and "Woooooo-hooooooo!!!!!" (that's me cheering!)

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  9. It's incredible how we can all see things so differently, especially men and women!

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  10. A woohoo!

    I have written about this before, the perception thing. The way we view the world will always be coloured by our own lives and experiences, and is why the online world especially can be so fraught with danger. While we may intend one thing with out words, we can't control how someone else will take them and colour them with their experiences and perceptions. It's why I am always so careful with what I write to people.

    Great post as usual!

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