Tuesday, July 11, 2017

Day 2826 - Are you interested in creating solid networks and relationships?

How interested are you?



People often ask me what I think the key to building good relationships is.

Obviously there are a lot of elements and many ways to answer that question, but my number one answer is always "be interested".




We have a choice to make when we meet new people.  We decide whether we are going to be interesting or interested.  Whether we are going to be the one telling the stories or if we're going to be the one listening to someone else's story.

I think the trick to building solid networks out of new introductions is to get the right balance of both.
Share enough of yourself that others want to hear more but also ask questions and show genuine interest in the lives, roles and stories of others.

It's about value.  Showing people that by being interested in them, you not only value them and their place in the world, but that you think they are valuable and have something unique to offer.

I know I can talk until the cows come home.  If you give me enough encouragement I can be guilty of leaning heavily on the "being interesting" side of the equation.  But I hope that I also manage a good whack of "being interested" as well. Because the bottom line is, I actually am.

I'm interested.  I'm genuinely interested in other people.  To the point where I may well drive you made with all my questions.

It's important to be interested.

People deserve it.

Do you have any tips on creating solid networks and relationships?

How interested are you? 

11 comments :

  1. It shocks me how many people are willing to talk about themselves but not reciprocate the questions. I have a brother like that - needless to say we don't get along. Food for thought. You are so right.

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    1. I have people in my life like that too. I guess it gives me a chance to practise being interested!

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  2. Yes, I think we have to strike a good balance and like Jody says, many people spend far too long waffling and not enough time listening.

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  3. I can certainly get distracted on tangents haha. But it's something I'm noticing with practise and over time.

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    1. Me too. I think as long as we recognise it in ourselves and be self aware enough to adjust, that's the main thing.

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  4. I'm not a great networker, but do prefer a solid friendship. For me it's about treating people with kindness and respect, always.

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  5. I'm a good networker - at MAKING the contacts, but I'm not good at maintaining them. I guess I tend to hope others are the same and will only touch base 'when' they need something - which is what I'm prone to do.... in a work sense in particular!

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    1. I'm a good networker too. Especially for other people! LOL. Whether they want it or not.

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  6. I love this! Be interesting too!! I love to network but I really struggle with those that prefer to know all about you and give nothing back. In a small town theresheaps that want to know what's going on in your world but offer nothing back. Drives me crazy!! #teamIBOT

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