Friday, April 2, 2010

Day 180

When we get married we vow to stay together for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, or until death do us part ... or until it's more comfortable to sleep apart.

Is it bad that I get a better night's sleep away from my hubby? Is it bad that we actually want to sleep in separate beds from time to time? What if "from time to time" becomes standard operating procedure and we only spend the night together "from time to time" instead? Or worse, we never spend the night together at all?

Lately I have been having very poor quality sleep. I've been averaging around 4-5 hours a night and I'm an absolute zombified mess as a result. A snappy, cranky, teary exhausted mess. Combine that with the body aches and pains ... and my shot knees ... and I'm a bit of a dippy downer (to say the least). But yesterday we hit the road for our Easter travels and we've landed at the farm where the country air, a live in cook and a great babysitter (thanks Mum) have allowed me to relax and tune out. Because we are in a different environment Darby felt a little vulnerable last night so didn't want to sleep alone - so I put him in with Derek and I took the single bed.

I have had the best night sleep EVER!!! 11 hours sleep. 11 hours!!!! I don't want to go back to battle the dreaming disco. I like being the straight sleeper, all alone, with my doona in the exact same position it started in. I feel human again.

Are we really designed to sleep together as a couple, or should we just be visiting on date nights? Do others ever feel this way or is it just the case that I'm too straight laced for a disco duck? Is this yet another symptom of deep fried fruit? While the single ladies are wishing for a nice warm body to share their beds with, I am shunning the warmth for some alone time.

I don't know the answers to any of this, but I can tell you one thing, I am choosing the single life again tonight.


  1. We cannot sleep in the same bed anymore. It started when Boy 1 was small and ended up co-sleeping until he was 9! It just wasn't worth the broken sleep with his night terrors, nightmares and sleep walking continually. But we as a couple also have very different sleep patterns.

    Now, by choice, we have secret rendezvous which keep the spice in our fourteen year old marriage... And some nights we quite enjoy the odd sleep together.

  2. You have no idea how relieved I am to read this.

  3. Oh no, the relief is mine Lucy. Thank you Madmother!!! I thought the divorce papers were about to be delivered.

  4. I didn't have time to elaborate earlier but now I have a few minutes, I will. I hope that the intense love that I share with lovely husband is evident in my blog, and I love to shag the arse of him......BUT......when I retire to bed, I like my candles. I like my book. I like my hypnotherapy. I like my space. He does not. He likes to snore. So, he falls asleep in front of the TV neary every night and I leave him there, LOL! Then I enjoy getting into bed a singleton. When he then wakes in the early hours of the morning, he gets into our spare bed, as he knows MY alarm will be shrilling at 5am. (This scenario works for us five nights out of seven! The other two is when we shag the arse of each other, LOL!)

  5. My hubby and I now have separate bedrooms, not just separate beds. Like you I was having disrupted sleep, not only from the snore that came from the other side of our queen sized bed, but the fact he likes a hard bed and I need softer for my arthritis. So what started as me occasionally heading to the spare room has now resulted in me sleeping there every night. When we go away we sleep together as it not such an issue as I know I will head home to me bed. We also think it added spice to our marriage, as the rendezvous are awesome - if you get my drift.

  6. Oh wow! I feel so refreshed!! Thanks everyone. Cheers to a snore free, wrinkle free and fart free zone!

  7. Okay, is this the bit where I own up to being the snoring, farting, wrinkly one?


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