Friday, February 19, 2016

Day 2318 - can couples live and work together 24-7?

How much time do you spend with your significant other?

I work from home.  I do coaching/consultancy work, I do author things, I do mumager things and I do bloggy things.

My husband also works from home a lot.  He does fancy things for a worldwide telecommunications company and unless he has meetings, he can do his work from pretty much anywhere as long as he has phone and internet.

As it is we are probably together 20-22 hours a day.  He'll often drive off to work around the same time the kids go to school and come home at lunch to work from home all afternoon.  It's really great for him to have such a flexible working environment. He gets a lot done.

As for me, it kinda does my head in.

At the risk of sounding selfish I'm someone that needs my own space.  Perhaps it's because I'm an only child, or maybe it's because I'm a Type A* personality, or it could just be that I work best in my own company.  But I NEED to be alone.

Those few hours that I have in the morning are precious.  I get so much done when I'm by myself.  The moment someone else walks into the house I become very aware of their energy and even if they don't speak, I can feel their presence.  It plays havoc with my creativity and my ability to focus.

It doesn't help that we don't have enough room in our home for an actual office.  The hubster and I have desks at either end of our formal lounge room which means there is no place to hide away and shut the door.

As it is at the moment I am able to get stuff done without any family members for a few hours a day. It's a time when I can BE the business woman without also having to be a mother or wife.

But last night the hubster announced his company would be downsizing the actual office space over the coming year and will be encouraging more and more people to work from home.  He won't have a desk at work.

What?!  We're going to be together 24/7?!

[Insert swear words, hyperventilating, tears and other tantrums hidden inside my head here.]  

Anyway, it got me to thinking about the way the business world is headed. With technology being so portable more and more people are "hot desking" and being able to work outside the traditional office environment.  More and more people are able to work from home.

Which probably means more and more couples are working in the same space.  The same space that they live in.

I love my husband of course and we have a lot of fun together, but are couples able to spend every minute of every day together?

Is it a cute testament to love and commitment or simply a recipe for marital disaster?

Can couples live and work together under the one roof?

How much time do you spend each day with your significant other?

Could you be together 24/7?

Any tips on how to survive a living and working together arrangement?

*Type A personality not confirmed. Totally a "self diagnosis".


  1. How interesting and awesome that your husband has that work flexibility. I'm surprised more company's aren't offering work from home opportunities because it can save the overhead of hiring and office and maintaining desks and etc. I wonder if your husband can go to a café on some mornings so that you can get your time to get the bulk of your work done by yourself? I hope you are able to find a good solution. x

  2. Some people can, I don't think we could. Maybe we could. Lot's of distractions at home tho. I think it's bad that your husbands work is doing that, however, as there's a lot of benefits from communal workspaces. A lot of work satisfaction is not just about the job or the money, it's the interaction with people and the reflection of yourself in a role...that will all be lost.

  3. Fantastic for hubby but yes, I feel you. I need alone time as well or I feel like I can't devote my full attention to other things!

  4. Hubby and I own a business together - I run the office from home and he is gone most days for around 7 hours of the day out onsite. During that time we talk numerous times and are very much in work mode. He comes home, joins me in the office for a few hours. He then normally hits the gym to destress and I get dinner ready. We then spend the evening together. I definitely love my space on the days he goes to site. The days we work together can be long and taxing hehe! Its so interesting how so many people work from home and have such flexible work spaces isnt it!

  5. I have to say I think that these days a home office is a must have. And if you both work from home, then a his and hers might be the go - time to renovate?! I feel your pain, as I often conduct podcast interviews and record videos and I do feel self conscious about these when other people are at home.

  6. For me. I love my space and Fridays are my only day that I get it. I wish I had more Fridays.

  7. I'm with you Leanne - I love my solitude here at home where I can work with only the panting or snoring of the pugs to disturb me! Having just been completely unproductive in the holidays with my husband and all the kids here at home with me, I know we would have to work in different rooms if this was ever going to be our reality! You may need to go out and write in a cafe or the local library in order to get anything done!

  8. Very interesting. I think I'd struggle to work in close confines with my hubster. But a lot of that is to do with our jobs. He's a construction manager so spends a LOT of time on the phone. To builders. It gets very sweary. I'd find it hard to enter my writer shell with him dropping C-bombs in the background!

  9. I worked well with my ex-husband for a while, but we did have an office and kids to share looking after, and had to pop in and out all the time. I had a boyfriend once who would come over to work with me during the day (basically to use my free internet) and he drove me nuts. Also he didn't have as big a workload as me so would finish early and be WILLING me to finish so we could do stuff together. And he would't go off and do his own thing because he didn't want to leave me alone, not realising I NEEDED some space. I don't think it works if you don't have a mature relationships.

  10. It's actually our long term goal to both work for ourselves, from home. BUT, there is no way we could do that without our own offices & a decent sized house. I never get any time at home alone, and frankly it drives me nucking futs sometimes.

  11. Oh gosh, I feel your pain Leanne. I love my hubby to bits, but I don't think we'd be happy spending 24/7 together EVERY. SINGLE. DAY! I also need my space. I love working from home on my own. If I want company, I go and have a cuppa or lunch with a friend, or go to a networking breakfast or lunch. Not sure what the solution is for you...


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