Tuesday, October 31, 2017

Day 2932 - At what point are we actually middle aged?

What does "middle age" mean to you?

When I first started writing this blog at 40, the idea was to contemplate middle age.  People were a little shocked that I was referring to myself as middle aged in the forty decade. Forty is the new thirty after all.

But the reality is, the decade between 40 and 50 really is midlife.  If we're lucky.  To live to 80, 90 or 100 is a damn good wicket and this decade that I'm in right now is right there in the mid section.

In fact, I just realised last night that if I was to be lucky enough to live as long as my grandmother who is 96, I am smack bang right on middle age right now! At 48 I am half her age.  She was the age I am now when I was born.  At my age, her daughter was producing their first grandchild.

I already feel like I've lived forever, so to realise that based on my family matriarch I'm potentially only half way through is huge news!

I did skip down the hallway and declare my midlife excitement in a vocal "whoop whoop" last night.  So much to celebrate.

Then as I sat down to write this post about the glee of having an entire lifetime ahead of me I realised that not everyone my age can celebrate that realisation.

People half my age, a quarter, a tenth, may already be faced with never having the privilege of growing older.

Our big grown up daughter for example (whom I didn't whoop for joy in front of) is facing a different reality with her 5th cancer diagnosis.  Her life is filled with uncertainty.

Which made me realise, rather than celebrate that I am potentially only half way through my life, I'm privileged to be ageing at all.

At what point are we actually middle aged?

What does "middle age" mean to you?   


  1. I am so, so sorry to hear about your daughter. That's devastating for her. And you all. I hope she continues to beat it.
    As for middle aged, it's never enough. I try not to think about it. My husband keeps saying 'we only have 30 years left'. That sends me into a panic! Seriously. So I'm past middle age, apparently :(

  2. I'm middle aged but I don't feel like I imagine a middle aged person should feel. I hope I continue to feel this way, to be active, to explore and learn, and experience new things for the rest of my life.


  3. I have moved from middle-aged to ....are you ready for it...elderly. That is how newspapers describe over 60s and 65s definitely. I remember my mid forties and thinking it was a glorious age. Enjoy what you have as you say, some do not even make that. All of my love and healing wishes sent your way to C today xxx

  4. Oh my goodness, 5th diagnosis, what a difficult time for you all. As for middle age, not sure how I feel about it. Having had the recent realisation that stress is killing me, I guess I am hopefully I am at the beginning, and not closer to the end. Life is a privilege, that is for sure.

  5. Oh I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter. That's a trooper for sure. I've never given much thought to when middle aged is, but can I get away with that being only in my early 30s? :)

  6. I'm so sorry to hear about your big girl - that's SO unfair and so tough not just on her, but on all of you. I've always been a fan of birthdays but never moreso since my own cancer diagnoses, because getting older is a privilege denied to many. These days rather than worry about my age, I embrace it and feel very lucky to be here.

  7. I'm sorry about the news of your daughter. I was diagnosed with bone cancer with I was 5 yrs old. It's one of my first memories. I had lots of surgery and now 40 years later I am still here and kicking life's butt. I love the way you have said celebrate just living my life - nothing more to say. #teamIBOT

    1. Oh my. I did not know that. So glad you are here and doing all you can to make your world and that of others a better place. D xx

  8. At 43 I am definitely there. My Dad died at 45, and my brother at 25, so I take middle age as a gift, and I brook no moaning from my husband as he stares down the privilege of turning 50 in February either :) . I am so sorry that your daughter is going through this such an ordeal.

  9. Oh yes, it's a shocking reminder isn't it... that so many aren't as fortunate as we are.

    I'm a bit the opposite though. There's so much I feel as if I haven't done I don't feel liked I've lived that long. It worries me that I'll die without falling in love and so forth.


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